Perhaps you were asking for it?

I have been told that I am an angry person who has a negative outlook on life. Recently, I have been doing some reading and doing some research into verbal and non-verbal communication. I thought that it was the way in which I was communicating with others that led them to believe that I was an angry or negative person. After reading my result of my research you will realize that it was you and not me that has the problem.

Ninety-Five percent of the time, we get treated the way we INVITE people to treat us. Everything we do, especially our non-verbal behavior, is an invitation to those around us. A smile is an invitation. So is a frown. So is a sad face, an angry face, or a serious face. Body posture is also an invitation. The next time you are in a social gathering, just be an observer. Look around and ask yourself: "How is this person inviting people to treat them?" Then ask yourself another question: "Does this person actually get treated the way they are inviting us to treat them?" About 95% of the time the answer will be "Yes."

Once you've observed others and learned their invitations, you can look at yourself. Unfortunately, simply "observing" your own behavior won't work well. This is because most of our invitations are out of our awareness. To learn about yourself, answer this question: "How do most people treat me most of the time?" Come up with three or four adjectives which describe how you are usually treated. This is what you INVITE from other people! If you need three or four adjectives let me provide a few that you may wish to choose from. (Grumpy, Snobbish, Brain Dead, Dazed, Arrogant, Self-Centered, Uninterested, Withdrawn, Addled, Ignorant, Inarticulate, Irrational, Illogical, Obtuse, Stubborn, Dense, Fallacious, Stagnant, and just plain Uneducated.)

Take responsibility for your own invitations. This will be next to impossible for most of you. Ask yourself: "How would I treat someone like me?" Then admit that you invite what you get, and that you can learn and change. It's easier to blame others for how we are treated than it is to take responsibility for our invitations and make changes. But blaming doesn't work, and changing our invitations does.

I also want to add that in my research I learned that people who have a negative attitude towards life as well as people who are depressed, which I am not, are the only people who have a realistic view of how the world functions.

If you feel that I speak in a negative or angry fashion then there is a good chance it is because you have unknowingly asked me to treat you that way. Slap a smile on your crabby face. If you have read my previous rants than you will know that this alone will not likely fix the problem. A smile only gets you so far. At some point in time you will have to speak and leave no doubt in any ones mind that you are in fact a dim-wit.

Don’t Let The Terrorists Win. Smile at them, perhaps it was all a misunderstanding from the beginning. Most likely you were asking for it.